The anniversary of a loved one’s death can bring a complex mix of emotions to the surface. For many, this day rekindles acute pain, while presenting a much-needed opportunity for reflection and connection. At Amend Wellness, we recognize the importance of addressing all facets of grief and loss, including less frequently discussed feelings like anger. Here are some ways to honor your loved one and cope with your feelings during a death anniversary.
Visit Their Final Resting Place
A traditional way to mark a death anniversary is by visiting your loved one’s grave or the place where you scattered their ashes. Whether you choose to go alone or with others, this act can be a poignant reminder of your loss and a moment to feel closer to the person you miss.
Honor Their Life
Use your loved one’s favorite music, food, or movie to transform your grief into a celebration of the things they enjoyed doing in life.
Give Yourself Permission to Express Anger
Anger is part of the grieving process for many people, often stemming from a lack of closure. A death anniversary might intensify these feelings, which you must acknowledge and express. Physical activity, such as a brisk walk or run, can be an effective way to channel your energy and give you a healthy outlet for complex emotions.
Reflect Quietly
Use this day to contemplate how you have grown and changed since experiencing the loss. Writing in a journal, creating art, or meditating can be therapeutic ways to consider your personal growth and your loved one’s continuing impact on your life.
Join a Support Group
Sharing your experiences with others who understand might be incredibly cathartic. Consider attending a grief support group meeting around the anniversary. Others who have gone through similar experiences can provide comfort and insights.
Amend Wellness: Texas’ Premier Emotional Health Center
At Amend Wellness, we understand the profound and sometimes turbulent emotions that accompany anniversaries of loss. We provide a judgment-free space where you can explore and express all your feelings – from sadness and nostalgia to anger and relief. No matter how long it’s been since you lost your loved one, our understanding, empathetic therapists will help you cope with the upheaval.
Grief is personal, and there is no “right” or “wrong” way to handle a death anniversary. Whatever emotions the day brings, it’s OK to mourn in your way, at your pace. If you find yourself struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out to us at our private wellness retreat.